Smart is the new sexy
So this time, I figured to write in English. Sorry mates who do not feel like translating. :*
I used to listen to this playlist on Spotify on my way to work called as "Smart is the new sexy". Now I actually decided to googled the term sexy for the first time. Not that it should have been such a surprise, all the results associated with women, porn or pictures/videos of women doing/about to do porn (and I didn't even need to open these links to see the pictures). When specifying the search with a word definition I got the following two examples as the leading definitions from the site of urban dictionary:
1) Sexy
Something the girls in the example pictures aren't.
"No way that is sexy"
#ugly #attention #whore #slut #cunt
2) Sexy
Someone or something which is sexually attractive, causes a stirring of sexual feelings and/or thoughts in others, is arousing. people can be described as sexy due their physical appearance, behavior, personality and other stuff
"man, jess has such a sexy body.
look at the way liv and kim are dancing. that's sexy.
abbey's got a sexy walk. and the way she talks really revs my engine.
jules so confident in herself, it's sexy."
#sex #sexxy #arousal #boobs #hot #hotness #sexed up
All of the definitions above leads into conclusion, that being sexy is linked into femininity and/or being a girl, a woman. Not that, I am happy that the second definition even talked about behavior and personality as a part of being sexy, not only the physical appearance of a woman (on the other hand hashtag boobs put me back down to earth).
I remembered all the face expressions relating to a single-mother, who had a great career and two kids to raise by herself. The faces, when my mother flew in with her trendy high boots, red up-to-date haircut and dark woolen jacket. I did not even realize the value of my mother, I just considered her to be like every other women as well. But time flew by and I grew up in a norm, where a women is in a high manager level of a good corporation. At some point, when I realized the value of my mother's work, the position where she had worked her way through. In a world of 90's to the beginning of millennium, it is not a certainty to be a woman in "men's world".
Even if, if we look the standards that are set from the media. As corny as it is, but let's think about Sex and the City, where Miranda worked her way through to be a female senior partner in a certain law firm, where she worked. Women all around the world has been voicing for feminism and women's rights, while I've been living in a pink bubble where I have always taken an assumption of women working as a manager or even higher level role. Even in my previous job, I remember to noticing how they highlighted the amount of female workers in the top roles of the corporation.
Now, don't get me wrong. I am a true feminist. I admire Emma Watson for her skills to put and defining and capturing the ideology of feminism (see the video below) with the right words. I admire the strength that feminism carries through all these days, where the violence seems to take more place and even you as a female can be categorized as being either too shallow, work-orientated, suburb-home wife or too violent and aggressive or sexy or whatever comes to one's mind. Feminism is the strength to have the will to demand justice between genders. The strength, where all minorities are treated equally, without being labelled too aggressive when e.g. defending your ideology.
So, my pink bubble popped quite a while ago. Where being sexy seems to be part of femininity and women hood, I admire it at the same time. Women's should have the right to be sexy without being label-marked with the definition of sexy. But at the same time... is being sexy all worthwhile? When did #boobs won the race of #smart and keeps on winning? Even, in a world where feminism is one of the core values of a company, #boobs or body as a whole in one's appearance is used more than smartness or way of personality in a definition of sexiness?
Smart indeed is the new sexy, so let's praise the opportunity where smartness could be considered as sexiness, feminism would not be considered only a movement of women's but instead as a peace of equalities.
Ps. I'm so nervous to publish this, so please don't give me hard time if you read the whole thing. Instead, if you didn't like it, let me know why. If you read it andliked appreciated it, even a small bit, please do not hesitate to let me know.
I used to listen to this playlist on Spotify on my way to work called as "Smart is the new sexy". Now I actually decided to googled the term sexy for the first time. Not that it should have been such a surprise, all the results associated with women, porn or pictures/videos of women doing/about to do porn (and I didn't even need to open these links to see the pictures). When specifying the search with a word definition I got the following two examples as the leading definitions from the site of urban dictionary:
1) Sexy
Something the girls in the example pictures aren't.
"No way that is sexy"
#ugly #attention #whore #slut #cunt
2) Sexy
Someone or something which is sexually attractive, causes a stirring of sexual feelings and/or thoughts in others, is arousing. people can be described as sexy due their physical appearance, behavior, personality and other stuff
"man, jess has such a sexy body.
look at the way liv and kim are dancing. that's sexy.
abbey's got a sexy walk. and the way she talks really revs my engine.
jules so confident in herself, it's sexy."
#sex #sexxy #arousal #boobs #hot #hotness #sexed up
All of the definitions above leads into conclusion, that being sexy is linked into femininity and/or being a girl, a woman. Not that, I am happy that the second definition even talked about behavior and personality as a part of being sexy, not only the physical appearance of a woman (on the other hand hashtag boobs put me back down to earth).
"If we do something over and over again, it becomes normal. If we see the same thing over and over again, it becomes normal. If only boys are made class monitor, then at some point we will all think, even if unconsciously, that the class monitor has to be a boy. If we keep seeing only men as head of corporations, it starts to seem 'natural' that only men should be heads of corporations."When I read the quote above, I firstly did not even realize what the writer meant, or why did she write about women not being as the head of corporations. How come it could be so unnatural to not see women's as head of corporations? Then I realized. I flew back over 14 years in my memory lane, to my first grades of elementary school. I remember the teacher's meetings, where my mother came a few minutes late running straight from work. She was a career lady, well still is, but now in a different kind of position and with different kind of responsibilities.
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: We should all be feminists
I remembered all the face expressions relating to a single-mother, who had a great career and two kids to raise by herself. The faces, when my mother flew in with her trendy high boots, red up-to-date haircut and dark woolen jacket. I did not even realize the value of my mother, I just considered her to be like every other women as well. But time flew by and I grew up in a norm, where a women is in a high manager level of a good corporation. At some point, when I realized the value of my mother's work, the position where she had worked her way through. In a world of 90's to the beginning of millennium, it is not a certainty to be a woman in "men's world".
Even if, if we look the standards that are set from the media. As corny as it is, but let's think about Sex and the City, where Miranda worked her way through to be a female senior partner in a certain law firm, where she worked. Women all around the world has been voicing for feminism and women's rights, while I've been living in a pink bubble where I have always taken an assumption of women working as a manager or even higher level role. Even in my previous job, I remember to noticing how they highlighted the amount of female workers in the top roles of the corporation.
Now, don't get me wrong. I am a true feminist. I admire Emma Watson for her skills to put and defining and capturing the ideology of feminism (see the video below) with the right words. I admire the strength that feminism carries through all these days, where the violence seems to take more place and even you as a female can be categorized as being either too shallow, work-orientated, suburb-home wife or too violent and aggressive or sexy or whatever comes to one's mind. Feminism is the strength to have the will to demand justice between genders. The strength, where all minorities are treated equally, without being labelled too aggressive when e.g. defending your ideology.
So, my pink bubble popped quite a while ago. Where being sexy seems to be part of femininity and women hood, I admire it at the same time. Women's should have the right to be sexy without being label-marked with the definition of sexy. But at the same time... is being sexy all worthwhile? When did #boobs won the race of #smart and keeps on winning? Even, in a world where feminism is one of the core values of a company, #boobs or body as a whole in one's appearance is used more than smartness or way of personality in a definition of sexiness?
"For the record, feminism by definition is the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. It is the theory of political, economic and social equality of the sexes."
Emma Watson at the HeForShe Campaign, 2014
Smart indeed is the new sexy, so let's praise the opportunity where smartness could be considered as sexiness, feminism would not be considered only a movement of women's but instead as a peace of equalities.
Ps. I'm so nervous to publish this, so please don't give me hard time if you read the whole thing. Instead, if you didn't like it, let me know why. If you read it and